Comments for Horace Mann Survivor http://horacemannsurvivor.org A site by and for Horace Mann abuse survivors Mon, 13 May 2013 00:01:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 Comment on Original Survivors’ Letter by diogenes http://horacemannsurvivor.org/survivors-letters/hm-abuse-survivors-letter/#comment-7410 diogenes Mon, 13 May 2013 00:01:39 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?page_id=90#comment-7410 It is clear the HM administration is psychologically, morally, and legally disinclined to “do the right thing.” Penn State University refused to do the right thing for fifteen years until it was hit with a mountain of evidence. The Board of Trustees has only recently been filled with reactionary “scandal deniers” who want to wipe the University clean of any responsibility–and Gov. Corbett is suing to remove NCAA fines. So much much for conscience and leaning from experience. Penn has a “football cult,” and HM has an “HM is the greatest prep-school in the USA” cult. You cannot change cult thinking. You can only fight it head on with threats and pressure. Get more creative about what you can do to pressure HM into “doing the right thing.”

]]> Comment on Dr. Tom Kelly Expresses Support for Markey Bill by diogenes http://horacemannsurvivor.org/horace-mann-headmaster-dr-tom-kelly-expresses-support-for-markey-bill/#comment-7396 diogenes Sun, 12 May 2013 14:01:00 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=576#comment-7396 I am certain that Dr. Kelly is also strongly opposed to child malnutrition. This is commendable.

It seems that there are assailants who are still alive and administrators involved in the cover-up who still work for the school. And the school has not apologized.

]]> Comment on You Are Not Alone by diogenes http://horacemannsurvivor.org/you-are-not-alone/#comment-7323 diogenes Sat, 11 May 2013 03:58:17 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=1#comment-7323 The Horace Mann Survivors are helping students all over the country by insisting upon accountability. The refusal of the school to officially apologize is deplorable and cannot be accepted.

]]> Comment on Child sexual abuse remains hidden, often for years by diogenes http://horacemannsurvivor.org/years/#comment-7322 diogenes Sat, 11 May 2013 03:48:00 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=517#comment-7322 The Gladwell quote is not very helpful. Institutions tend to close ranks and cover up no matter what the issue is. It is not easy for an abuser to “get away with it” without help–either implicit or explicit. The refusal of the Horace Mann Board of Trustees to apologize is a classic example of institutional group-thinking. The administration of Penn State University “got away with it” for fifteen years. They are making ammends now only because they were forced to. The survivors of Horace Mann abuse should look upon their task as legal and political warfare.

]]> Comment on Dr. Tom Kelly Expresses Support for Markey Bill by diogenes http://horacemannsurvivor.org/horace-mann-headmaster-dr-tom-kelly-expresses-support-for-markey-bill/#comment-7320 diogenes Sat, 11 May 2013 03:15:38 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=576#comment-7320 Has Horace Mann started an independent investigation?

]]> Comment on New Coverage: Robert Berman article in The New Yorker by c han http://horacemannsurvivor.org/robert-berman-article-in-the-new-yorker/#comment-7192 c han Wed, 08 May 2013 04:53:34 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=546#comment-7192 This is all so, so awful.
My thoughts go out to all the Horace Mann survivors.

I…
I have an overpowering desire to read this “magnum opus” of his. Would it be absolutely impossible to find a copy?

]]> Comment on You Are Not Alone by Ralp Ubod http://horacemannsurvivor.org/you-are-not-alone/#comment-7101 Ralp Ubod Fri, 03 May 2013 07:54:19 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=1#comment-7101 The only real reason it ongoing because it did because individuals who understood and were capable of find a solution made a decision to do nothing at all. My sympathies in your loss.

]]> Comment on You Are Not Alone by Austin http://horacemannsurvivor.org/you-are-not-alone/#comment-7051 Austin Wed, 01 May 2013 08:27:22 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=1#comment-7051 This is my first time discussing this out loud. Im a male student that was in a sexual relationship with a female teacher from my sophomore year through graduation in ’96 at HM. I have ruined my life by destroying all that I love, abusing alcohol and drugs, and a failed suicide attempt 4 yrs ago after a failed marriage. I have lost good friends, and destroyed relatinships. ,I don’t know what else to say right now. I had a lot going for me at HM…. Athletic scholarship to college, only to drop out and start my eternal downward spiral. Forever I told myself that “it just happened” and “I’m ok”. I guess I’m not. I had a great group of friends that I neglected and abandoned for this teacher. I had a best friend that I embarrassed and miss every day. I’m sorry to you all

]]> Comment on New Coverage: Robert Berman article in The New Yorker by Bart_Cubbins http://horacemannsurvivor.org/robert-berman-article-in-the-new-yorker/#comment-7006 Bart_Cubbins Mon, 29 Apr 2013 14:10:52 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=546#comment-7006 Wall Street Journal article late last week (April 26)
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323789704578447291931964484.html

In this article, one classmate of mine is mentioned. Sadly- he was a Bermanite, refer to my previous post for some hint at possible rationale.

]]> Comment on New Coverage: Robert Berman article in The New Yorker by C Simpson http://horacemannsurvivor.org/robert-berman-article-in-the-new-yorker/#comment-6954 C Simpson Sat, 27 Apr 2013 20:39:26 +0000 http://horacemannsurvivor.org/?p=546#comment-6954 I am not connected to Horace Mann school at all, but just read the NYer article and wanted to send care and support to all those survivors. Having experienced only cruleness of words and behaviour from mentors/teachers, I cannot being to imagine the hurt this man’s actions have caused and continue to cause. May each survivor find healing, peace, and deep residing love within themselves.

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